What is your thought process???

So in the past few weeks I have spoken with a lot of my friends about men and their reasons for living! That may sound really harsh but I myself am so livid at the behaviour of men, their reasons behind it and the way women let them get away with it.

 

Friend 1- My friend had been seeing this guy who back in the day I used to like, now I myself didn't really care about this fact as I had moved on to bigger and better things quite a while back (however I did appreciate the fact that my friend told me she was seeing him just out of courtesy even though it wasn't necessary). Now this guy she was seeing also happened to be the brother of one of her close friends, which I don't particularly see a problem with; however the guy made it very clear from the offset that she was not allowed to tell his brother. NOW WHAT IS YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS???? Firstly if this thing they were having was just a fling then maybe I would understand that because there is no reason to share that business with everyone just because it is happening, BUT according to him this wasn't just a fling in which case why are you trying to hide it? Man up, if your big enough to start something then why are you hiding it from your brother, because to me it's one of two things; you're not serious or you know he would appreciate the fact that you're boning his friend, either way you know it's is not going to end well, so instead of starting it up in the first place, THINK, because I'm sure you can find girls to bang elsewhere. The icing on the cake was when he was talking to me on Blackberry Messenger (just because it's not Facebook doesn't mean you can't still get caught; remember we can copy the chat's to anyone) basically asking for a second chance and what not, now being the friend that I am I told my friend straight away and copied the conversation to her on BBM, she then confronted him and told in no uncertain terms to delete her number, PIN, Facebook, the whole social networking spectrum; his reply to her was that he was 'joking'…hmmmm…I know you're thinking the same as me right?!. Now I'm not one to mince my words but seriously…'a man walks into a bar and says ouch' is a joke, what he did was something totally different but at least my friend told him where he could take his comedy routine.

 

Now this is one of many situations in which I find myself questioning the thought process of the males in society today. Now I am not a psychologist but maybe the 'I never had a father around' argument has some truth to it. I mean if you don't have a GOOD father figure around to show you right from wrong and how to be a man maybe you have no hope in hell of becoming one that does what you are actually supposed to do and be in order to treat women good. Now I am not saying that all men have to be saints and stuff, in fact sometimes if you're not into the whole 'relationship' then that's fine, but make sure when you aren't you let a sistuh know.

 

Friend 2- Is one of my very close male friends and he has this girlfriend who he has been with for years, however they are so up and down. Now I am not one to preach or anything but every time he talks to me about their relationship I have to keep quiet because trying to talk to him about it is like talking to a brick wall. I know he loves her but he's is not exactly the most faithful guy in the world. When I first started talking to him it was when I was single and enjoying life as a single girl, ala Samantha Jones. Now if I had of known he was hung up so badly I might have thought twice about making him my bitch…LOL…ok well not my bitch but I made sure damn sure I was going to end up in his bed. Now I was oblivious at the time but he wasn't. WHAT IS YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS??? If you are angry at the girl you love then, sleeping with someone else is so not the way to deal with it, in fact is pathetic and childish, now I'll be honest and say that dude could throw down in the bedroom area, but it's a little disconcerting for you to be talking about your ex- girlfriend with the girl you having been sleeping with. Now because I am such a good person, I couldn't help but try to help, but he didn't make it easy and so after the many times we hung out (no sex included) I had to let him know that he was acting like a douche and really had no business getting angry at her when he had extracurricular activities going on. Now in the time that we have been friends I'm always waiting for the conversation in which he tells me they are back together, and then they one that tells me they are not, however I can't help but wonder what goes on in her head, because she knows that he is a man how, yet she still goes back. WHAT IS YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS???? If women don't let their men know from the get go 'dat certain tings na run' then we can't complain when he turns around and does his own thing. I'm not saying it is right but I think we are adult enough to know how certain things work with men and women and yet here we are still confused.

 

I think men should really take a look at what they are about to do before they do it and women need to think about how much they are willing to take when it comes to men. I highly doubt things will change but hey I've got a man (a good one) so what do I care????